Bonus Round in 2017

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Oriental Sounds Yamaha Keyboard with notebender, foot pedal, and power chord, keyboard on a stand.
A new addition to the SDC counseling room. Music is pure emotion. If music is your “thing”, let me help you unleash the music in you. And read about our other upcoming changes to the SDC office in 2017.

The longer you live, the more trips around the sun. The more trips around the sun, the more opportunities for trying new things, taking risks, and entering what I am calling The Bonus Round.

In 2016, we certainly saw a long march of artists and entertainers give their final curtain calls. This is really no different than other years — death is a natural occurrence! — but what shocked me more is how relatively young age of some of those artists. George Michael was only 53; Carrie Fischer, a mere 60 years old.

So at the beginning of 2017, I’m seeking something not quite akin to New Year’s resolutions. It’s more like New Year’s shake ups, an announcement of doing things a bit differently in order to experience more.

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    The Relationship Gap in Social Media and Texting Platforms

    Social Media | Texting | Emailing | Technology in Communication

    Don't fall in the relationship gap created by digital forms of communication. Photo by Pixabay, public use domain.
    Don’t fall in the relationship gap created by digital forms of communication. Photo by Pixabay, public use domain.

    Mind the Gap.

    You see the signs or hear the audible warnings inside of the London Tube, a reminder to pay attention to the gap between the train door and the platform. A misstep could result in serious injury.

    I wish people would hear a similar audio byte, “Mind the Relationship Gap”, each time they send a lengthy text to someone other than themselves. Maybe it would save them the anguish and frustration that my clients talk about, saying, “I know  I shouldn’t do this, but I got into a texting fight with [name of person], and it was all downhill from there.”

    It’s been brought to my attention how commonplace it is to see lengthy Social Media posts that fall into a similar pattern as long smartphone texts. What exactly is happening here when we pick up our devices and start finger tapping away? Are we accomplishing the things we think we are, and are we losing anything in the process?  Continue reading “The Relationship Gap in Social Media and Texting Platforms”

      Thanksgiving Day 2016

      Thanksgiving Day | Going Home | Family Dynamics

      Thanksgiving Day 2016

      Ah, it’s that time again.

      We are about to climb into our cars, board planes, or open our homes to family members and friends to celebrate an American tradition: coming together at the Thanksgiving Day meal, tossing around the ball for a friendly game of flag football, and figuring out how on earth we were ever comfortable sleeping on those tiny, double-sized twin beds.

      This year has another special feature to integrate. How do we integrate or avoid arguing with people over conflicting views about the the new presidential administration and proposed changes? And what, if anything, does this have to do with your mental and emotional health?

      You tell me. I mean, literally: you all have been telling me over the last two weeks. People are reporting that they are thinking about this challenge. People are asking me what to consider as they make plans to spend time with family, friends, and community members, as its citizens discuss their views of the future under a new president and administration.

      And some are already changing plans, based on what is happening in their homes and friend’s home, with some of that decision having nothing to do with the election. They have long-standing conflict that has been lingering for years.

      Read on for more tips to consider before you meet together.  Continue reading “Thanksgiving Day 2016”